Until you’ve consumed all of the best Polyamory books, can you even claim to be a true fan?
1. More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (2014)
Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? Absolutely! Polyamorous people have been paving the way, through trial and painful error. Now the new book More Than Two can help you find your own way. With completely new material and a fresh approach, Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert wrote More Than Two to expand on and update the themes and ideas in the wildly popular polyamory website morethantwo.com.From Ancient Greece through the many dynasties of China to current practices of non-monogamy, people have openly engaged in multiple intimate relationships. Not until the late 20th century,…
2. The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love (2017)
For 20 years The Ethical Slut has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to communication and sex has been revised to include interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships), tributes to poly pioneers, and new sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive. The authors also include new…
3. The Polyamory Toolkit: A Guidebook for Polyamorous Relationships (2019)
For nearly two decades Dan and Dawn have navigated their journey in polyamory by being proactive, insightful and analytical. Early on, there was very little information or resources available, so the adventure required them to learn from their mistakes as well as their successes.Each have multiple partners and have a history of polyamory relationships lasting multiple years. They have put the time and thought into creating a “toolkit” of knowledge others can implement to help their relationships survive and thrive.Dan and Dawn write in an anecdotal,…
4. The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love (2017)
No one likes a know-it-all, but everyone loves a girl with brains and heart. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory is an intelligent and comprehensive guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of alternative love, offering relationship advice radically different from anything you'll find on the magazine rack.This practical guidebook will help women break out of the mold of traditional monogamy, without the constraints of jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, and competition. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory incorporates interviews and real-world advice from women of all ages in…
5. Compersion: Polyamory Beyond Jealousy (2018)
Compersion can be defined as the opposite of jealousy. Hypatia, famous polyamorous blogger and inspirational writer, has intensively focused her research on this feeling somewhat unknown to most people. Through her careful research as well as her personal experience, she has come to the conclusion that compersion is within the reach of every polyamorous individual. However, this feeling of joy towards the happiness of our partners does not happen by chance, or without effort. Her hypothesis: Each polyamorous has specific individual needs that, once fulfilled, allow them to experience a solid and lasting…
6. A Therapist’s Guide to Consensual Nonmonogamy (2018)
Consensual nonmonogamy (CNM) means that all partners in a relationship consent to expanded monogamy or polyamory. Clinicians are on the front line in providing support for the estimated millions pioneering these modern relationships. This first available guide for therapists provides answers to prevalent questions: What is the difference between expanded monogamy and polyamory? Is CNM healthy and safe? Why would someone choose the complexities of multiple partners? What about the welfare of children? Through illustrative case studies from research and clinical…
7. Polyamory in the 21st Century:: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners (2012)
Polyamory means having simultaneous close emotional, and possibly sexual, relationships with two or more other individuals with the knowledge and consent of all partners concerned. The growing practice of polyamory in the U. S. indicates a significant shift in the way marriage and intimate relationships have evolved over the last few decades. This is the first book on the topic written for a general audience, for both those interested in practicing polyamory and those who have no intention of doing so. Readers who would like to better understand what this increasingly visible way of…
8. Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up (2014)
For many folks seeking to open up their lives and relationships, the road ahead is uncertain and foggy. Outside of traditional monogamy, relationship structure options and guidelines are often murky at best. This book seeks to demystify the basics of healthy, consensual non-monogamy by sharing the lessons learned from both Minx and thousands of podcast listeners who have built successful polyamorous relationships. While each relationship may be different, some basic guidelines are helpful in constructing one’s own version of polyamory, and the eight discoveries outlined in this…
9. It’s Called “Polyamory”: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships (2017)
Even in progressive families and communities, people who practice nonmonogamy are susceptible to misinformation and accusations of moral and emotional failings. Facing this requires its own coming out and education process. In this guide, Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles provide a roadmap for explaining the expansive intricacies of the consensual nonmonogamy spectrum. By fusing personal experience and community research, they break down the various incarnations of polyamorous relationship structures, polyamory's intersections with race and gender, and the seemingly esoteric jargon…
10. Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer Sexualities (Intersections) (2016)
A man and woman are in an open relationship. They have agreed that having sexual partners outside of their relationship is permissible. One night, when her partner is in another city, the woman has sex with the man’s best friend. What does this mean for their relationship? More importantly, why is there such a strong cultural taboo against this kind of triangulation and what does it reveal about the social organization of gender and sexuality? In Beyond Monogamy, Mimi Schippers asks these and other questions to explore compulsory monogamy as a central feature of…
11. Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy & secure in an open relationship (2017)
Jealousy can have an enormous impact on some people, so it is no surprise that people (especially those who practice consensual non-monogamy) think, talk, and write about it quite a bit. In “Jealousy Survival Guide”, Kitty Chambliss does the homework for you and collects the best tidbits on life and emotions to give you inspiration and provide tools to gain and practice new skills. Combining her own life experience with these pearls of wisdom, Kitty focuses on jealousy in consensually non-monogamous relationships, what it is, how it expresses, and specific ways to manage it. Kitty’s frank discussion of her own struggles with…
12. Ask Me About Polyamory: The Best of Kimchi Cuddles (2016)
A hilarious and touching comic about polyamory, queer, and genderqueer issues. If your relationships or your gender are unconventional, you’ll find useful advice and plenty of laughs in this compilation of the wildly popular webcomic Kimchi Cuddles. Quirky, endearing and charmingly (and sometimes painfully) realistic characters, many based on real people, explore polyamory, queer and genderqueer issues. Covering practical matters like time management and serious topics like discrimination, this book unites the best of two years of Kimchi…
13. Let’s Talk About… Non-Monogamy: Questions and Conversation Starters for Couples Exploring Open Relationships, Swinging, or Polyamory (Beyond the Sheets) (2019)
WARNING: This book will expand the sexual possibilities in your life!Are you interested in open relationships, swinging, or polyamory and want to find out what your partner thinks about it? Are you already in a non-monogamous relationship, but communication with your partner isn’t where it should be? If you’re exploring or already enjoying non-monogamy of any kind, this essential book of discussion questions will help you and your partner mutually examine and discuss sexual desires, boundaries, and expectations.Use this book to: Being unprepared before delving…
Best Polyamory Books Worth Your Attention
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The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
Author(s): Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
Publisher: Ten Speed Press, Year: 2017, Size: 3 Mb, Download: pdf
ID: 2303286
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
Author(s): Dossie Easton; Janet W. Hardy
Publisher: Ten Speed Press, Year: 2017, Size: 3 Mb, Download: epub
ID: 2339033
It’s Called "Polyamory": Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships
Author(s): Tamara Pincus; Rebecca Hiles
Publisher: , Year: 2017, Size: 2 Mb, Download: epub
ID: 2366112
Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer Sexualities
Author(s): Mimi Schippers
Publisher: NYU Press, Year: 2016, Size: 2 Mb, Download: pdf
ID: 1597555
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
Author(s): Franklin Veaux, Eve Rickert, Tatiana Gill, Janet Hardy
Publisher: Thorntree Press, Year: 2014, Size: 1 Mb, Download: epub
ID: 1491796
Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners
Author(s): Deborah Anapol
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Year: 2012, Size: 933 Kb, Download: pdf
ID: 809123
Sex, Sin, and Zen: A Buddhist Exploration of Sex from Celibacy to Polyamory and Everything in Between
Author(s): Brad Warner
Publisher: New World Library, Year: 2010, Size: 474 Kb, Download: epub
ID: 1556677
Please note that this booklist is not definite. Some books are absolutely chart-busters according to Los Angeles Times, others are written by unknown authors. On top of that, you can always find additional tutorials and courses on Coursera, Udemy or edX, for example. Are there any other relevant resources you could recommend? Drop a comment if you have any feedback on the list.